April 8, 2011

Tips For Choosing Your Maid of Honor or Best Man

Filed under: Uncategorized — Anthony Lala @ 1:29 pm

As a New Orleans wedding planner, I understand the excitement that newly engaged couples feel. From the moment they decide to get married, a thousand things pop into their heads, such as where to have the wedding, what dress to wear and of course who the Best Man or Maid of Honor should be. Since my goal is to give you the best wedding possible, here is some advice for choosing your Maid of Honor or Best Man.

Understand the role of the Maid of Honor and Best Man

Before making any decision on who your Maid of Honor or Best Man should be, you should first understand what their roles and responsibilities are. In the traditional sense, a Maid of Honor helps the bride do a range of things, including mailing invitations, selecting a dress, offering advice, organizing the bridal shower and bachelorette party, helping the bride get ready on the big day, holding the bouquet and acting as a witness to the marriage license.

The Best Man has similar duties. It’s his job to organize tuxedo fittings for the groomsmen, help the groom on the wedding day, plan the bachelor’s party, hold the rings, act as a witness and give the first toast during the reception.

Make sure they’re responsible

While the Best Man and Made of Honor don’t necessarily have to do all the things stated above, a good selection will obviously help you with the majority of things. That’s why you need to pick someone who’s responsible and reliable. If you’re considering someone with the reputation of never keeping promises and not fulfilling basic duties, you should cross them off the list. Your wedding will be a major affair and you should only surround yourself with people who are supportive and responsible.

Make sure they’re available

There may be someone who first pops into your mind when you’re thinking about a Best Man or Maid of Honor, but you have to make sure they’re available during the lead-up to the wedding and the actual day. If you’re absolutely set on someone, then being available in the lead-up is not essential. However, if you want someone to help out with the typical duties, then you want to be sure they’re going to be in New Orleans during the time they’re needed.

They don’t need to be family

Most people think you have to select a family member, but that’s not always necessary. The reason why people choose a family member is because they are usually closest with them. Nevertheless, if you’re not very close to your family or you’ve had a best friend for your whole life, select someone you think will fit best.

Talk it over with them

After you’ve made your decision and both you and your partner have agreed, it’s time to talk to them about it. For most people, it’s a privilege to be selected as a Maid of Honor or Best Man, but others may feel uncomfortable in the role. That’s why you need to let them know about the responsibilities, expectations and timeline. You should not make them feel obligated to take on the role, but should express your enthusiasm for your decision.

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